Sometimes when my partner, Amy, is triggered, we sit and read stories to get grounded again. The other day, we decided to read one of the picture books she had kept since childhood: Rumpelstiltskin.
I’m no stranger to the fact that many fairy tales are incredibly problematic, but the story of Rumpelstiltskin is insidiously unimaginative when it comes to women. In the story, a young … READ MORE
Omphaloskepsis has it that by staring into your own belly button long enough, you can self-induce a mystical trance wherein you gain great insight into the basic principles of human nature. In practice, this means that if you hunch your body forward, leer deeply into your abdomen’s scar, eventually an abundance of insight will spring to mind. This idea is more popularly known as “nave… READ MORE
I found boogers under my desk (which I share) at work. Haven’t felt this sick to my stomach since I watched The Cove.
I purchased PornographyFAQ.com. Watch out.
Violence against women.
Yes – all men are a part of the problem, and yes – all men need to accept responsibility for their part in perpetuating violence in their complicit silence and ignorance.
And when I … READ MORE
Content Warning: Graphic description of a horribly misogynistic Grand Theft Auto gameplay video.
I saw a video. In it, a driver barks “In you get” to a prostituted person standing on the curb. After she hops in, he pays her for various sexual favors, punches her in the face, knocks her to the asphalt, and then backs her over with his car. He speeds away, undeterred, knowing he’ll n… READ MORE
I’ve this horrible habit of beginning posts and not finishing them. At times I ceasefire because I find another post on the same subject that articulates a comparable perspective but so much better than I ever could, and other times I find my position shifted and the entire post bunk. The solution might have been to work faster or to stop comparing myself to others, but those are just… READ MORE
Content Warning: This is an open letter to my partner, Amy, who is a survivor of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse.
So I watched Gone Girl, and I’m afraid to report that it is, in fact, a resounding “fuck you” to women everywhere. I would have been perpetually offended by the movie regardless, but because you share a first name with the lead female, it was particul… READ MORE
I’ve been compiling the responses to my partner’s work in FELT, which is currently running the festival circuit.
None of these words belong to me; I’m gathering these reviews, interviews, and announcements in one place to chronicle the critical reception to FELT in real-time. To see Amy’s voice and experiences acknowledged through these pieces has been incredibly moving. I also hav… READ MORE
Content Warning: I am very explicit in this post and use language that is triggering.
Let’s establish right now that in order to truly love someone, you would, in the least, do one thing in your power to prevent their being harmed.
I know. You’re busy. You have things on your plate. And besides, you can’t prevent accidents from happening. You can’t be expected to prevent spontaneous… READ MORE
I wrote a pretty lengthy post concerning prostitution myths a few weeks back. At 5,800 words, I’m afraid a TL;DR audience might never be able to digest it. In consideration of consolidating some of that information, as well as providing additional statistics and materials validated by human rights organizations around the world, here are some underpinnings (subject to evolve and expan… READ MORE
because I just can’t find an even surface to build a new foundation on. Just as I’m ready to put down the shovel, I find some aberration beneath my feet, and I am compelled to go a little deeper. At this rate I wish I had a tractor: the mantle is clearly denser than the crust, and it’s become apparent I have a long way yet to dig.
Getting that first shovel of earth was arduous for … READ MORE
and I can scarcely get through a day without revisiting films that confirm this notion. There was a point in time when I attempted to make a list of all the films I had ever seen. It was a list of honor; a tribute to my favorite past time; a text document that validated my suspicion that I understood movies and their intentions better than most. Unfortunately for me, intention, my gir… READ MORE
I am recanting my complicity and contribution to the horrific oppression of women and children that sex industry apologists refer to as “sex work,” but you may know better as “prostitution.”
My beliefs about prostitution – that it is an inevitability, that women willingly opt-in, that legislation will keep it safe, that there is a distinction between being trafficked and being pros… READ MORE
My name is Michael Lovan. I’m a 31-year-old straight, white guy who lives near San Francisco. I’m lanky, mostly vegetarian, and I drive a PT Cruiser. My hobbies include anything remotely artistic, and I’m willfully employed as a customer service rep for a popular video game company. I have a masters degree and I lived in Japan for five years. I’m not much for tattoos, but after a wild… READ MORE
Dear Average 30-Year-Old,1
Let me motivate you with some frightening, frightening math.
If you were hoping to read this before you jumped into bed, let me warn you: you’ll have a hell of a time sleeping tonight.
And if you’re just catching this first thing in the morning, let me assure you: you’ll have no need f… READ MORE